You Just Had ANOTHER Fight
And as usual, it solved nothing.
Bruised and broken, you each retreat to your respective corners.
There is no winner.
One of you feels attacked and defensive.
The other: stonewalled and abandoned.
Cold and Separate
In some ways, it’s WORSE than just being alone.
Because you never stop sweeping things under the rug:
The anger.
The resentment.
The loneliness.
And you can’t grieve all the things you’ve lost:
The trust.
The closeness.
The intimacy.
Let’s Get Serious
You’re living like roommates, and for whatever reason, you’ve decided to go to bed lonely instead of digging into why you’ve lost your connection.
You’re here because your connection is broken.
No more ignoring it.
No more hiding it.
No more putting it off.
It’s Time to Take Action
My approach to couples counseling is grounded in family systems theory.
It posits that if anyone in the system does something different, the system will change. Even ONE small change can begin to restore the connection in your relationship.
You’ll learn how everyday “little moments” are opportunities to shift your relationship energy from negative to positive.
Two or three “thank yous” a day…
It changes the atmosphere from tension and division to appreciation and grace.
A few words when your partner enters the room…
It makes them feel seen and heard, which makes them feel closer to you.
Noticing your partner’s bids for connection…
Being attentive and interested helps the fondness and admiration between you grow.
Don’t Go to Bed with Questions
How did we get here?
Will they ever SEE me?
What happens if we break up?
These are the questions of the lonely and the insecure.
You’ve been in that place too long.
Make a change now. Call (317) 733-5096 to get started with a free consultation.
